How Do We See Criticism?
“Constructive criticism” is a term often heard as a negative statement. The critic claims his criticism is “constructive.” The recipient strongly disagrees.
“Criticism,” with or without “constructive” as a modifier, does not occur in the Bible. Yet, the idea may be in the word “rebuke,” which occurs several times in both the Old and New Testaments. Consider also the word “correction,” or “chasten.” All contain an idea of criticism. Though the modern phrase “constructive criticism” does not appear in the Bible, it is surely a Bible concept.
“Constructive criticism” seems to focus on the critic. To be a “constructive” critic is a great gift-- just as Barnabas excelled in exhorting. Such a critic offers something that is helpful. The content of his criticism makes it constructive. He also keeps a right attitude. The aim is to help, not hurt. He acts from love for the one he criticizes. “Constructive criticism” is often missing because critics fail the integrity test. Can you pass the constructive critic test?
The “constructiveness” of criticism can also be affected by how the other party receives it. Many people accept no criticism regardless of its quality. Regardless of who gives it, the spirit in which it is offered, or how badly it is needed, they simply reject criticism, period! We cannot afford such an attitude. Undeniably, criticism is hard to receive, always. “Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?” (Gal.4:16). “Yes!” is too often the resounding answer, no matter how, who, or why.
A good listener profits from almost all criticism, not just the “constructive” ones. Yes, some criticism may be entirely baseless, without merit, and even untrue. Generally, that is not the case even with mean critics. A malicious enemy prefers to find and parade your real fault, rather than invent one. A criticism clearly may aim to harm, it may come from an obviously malicious enemy, BUT that critic may tell you an unnoticed truth about yourself or your conduct. A truth you need to know. A truth your friends are too nice to mention. An honest and humble listener can make most criticisms constructive. He uses criticism to grow, no matter why it is given, nor who gave it. Admittedly, this is really tough!
Can we do that? Can we accept and use criticism for our own good regardless how or why it is expressed? Of course, we can! But will we? It is much easier to reject criticism saying, “that’s not constructive criticism.” It is easy to get angry and reply sharply. Also, to find even worse flaws in the critic. Yet just remember… the right way is seldom ever the easy way.
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